The Listening Theory

We all have a hunger to be understood. That’s human I guess. We all have a voice inside of us. We all want to express it,and when we feel that someone has taken the time to hear and acknowledge it, we open ourselves up to that person. Our trust, respect and outright appreciation for that person soars, and so does our relationship with them.

Leadership is about listening and allowing others to feel heard. The deeper your relationships, the stronger your leaderships.

It takes a really powerful and secure human being to be quiet enough to let the ideas of others be considered and heard.

When you listen, the person speaking begins to feel so understood. That personal hunger to have their voice heard begins to get fed. They feel safe, they slowly begin to take down the protective armor that they put on each morning before they leave the security of their homes. They dismantle the guard they’ve erected against the disappointment and discouragement they expect from people in their lives. That person begins to see that you really care about them.  For most people, they don’t listen because they’re insecure, and their egos are screaming so loudly, they have no ears to hear what anyone else is saying. For me, leadership is about listening and allowing others to feel heard. It takes a really powerful and secure person to be quiet enough to let the ideas of others be considered and heard.

The person begins to get that you want them to win. That person begins to realize that you have their best interests in mind, and so they begin to give you their very best, lending credit to the saying that ” Before someone will lend you a hand, you must touch their hearts”

It’s not really possible to make others feel good about themselves until you’re feeling really good about yourself.

Some motivational speaker inspired this.

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